Tuesday, September 7, 2010

New Jersey's Real Housewives - Season 2 Reunion Part 2

Well, Bravo won't let one of their franchises end - especially one with so many viewers and so much drama. But, I have to wonder - who's going to be on the show next year?

And will Danielle drop all the lawsuits?

And will Kim G really buy all of Teresa's stuff to put on ebay?

So many questions. But as for last night...

Caroline, I have to say that I was really in your corner up until a couple of weeks ago. Why agree to the trip to Italy if you hate cruises? Why not just get a shore house? And are you really surprised you got stuck baby-sitting? I felt sorry for you a little, but you put yourself into that position. Just like you put yourself into the position to try to moderate everything with Danielle. And then you tried to eat your cake and have it, too by claiming that you've never done anything directly to her, but that every barb sent to a member of your family was a direct hit on you. And then you resorted to name calling. The reunion didn't really win me back, either. I didn't like seeing you in all-out attack mode. And that's what you were. If Jacqui was willing to accept Danielle's apology, why weren't you? They were the two who were friends. They were the two who were most attacking of each other. You stirred the pot by introducing THE BOOK in the first season (so yeah, you did attack Danielle directly, by your own admission). Your emotions got the better of you and as much as you want to be the matriarch of the clan, that didn't seem to work out so well for you.

Teresa - I've got to say that I haven't been impressed by anything you've done. In fact, I've rolled my eyes at you more than at any other housewife. I'm not impressed with your excuses about your husband's affairs, his drunk driving, or his management of your expenses and income. I haven't been impressed with how you're raising your daughters. I (personally) don't care for your tastes in furnishings or fashion. I haven't liked how you've attacked Danielle - and make no mistake about it, you have. I haven't cared for how you body slammed Andy or how you cursed like a sailor at the reunion. While I do find your dedication to your family admirable, I've heard too many stories of poor treatment of your extended family to make me think that you're as sweet and loving as you'd like to be portrayed. And, if the rumors are true and you're not coming back because of a bad deal with Bravo over your book, well, you're the one who signed the contract, my dear. Personally, I just think you couldn't stand the actual attention of celebrity when you got it.

Jackie - I have to agree with the viewer who wrote in and suggested that you take the credit for Ashley's bad behavior. I've been saying that all season. She learned her way of dealing with things from where? Why, from watching YOU! If it's okay for you to man-handle her and physically throw her out of your house, why shouldn't she be able to put her hands on someone else? Oooooh! You gave away her car? Wow. Good for you. You kept her home from Italy? Oh, wow. Will she ever recover? Then again, would you have gotten so staggeringly drunk if she'd been there?

Kim G - nice mouth, lady. I don't have much to say in your direction. You can't play the victim. You knew what you were getting into with Danielle when you became her friend. You let her use you and you can't cry foul after the fact. But I haven't seen an ounce of class out of you and your appearance last night confirmed it. I sincerely hope you're not back again. And the whole creepy relationship between you and the other Kim? Get some chlorine into that gene pool and not just your hair!

Danielle - I'd like to hope that you were sincere in your apology. I want to think that you'll drop all the lawsuits. Yes, I can see you wanting nothing more than an apology. And I can see you not getting one because of all the hurt feelings. It's a shame that things got to where they did. I'm sure the celebrity factor didn't help much. And I can't really blame you for walking out. Yes, the three of them ganged up on you. But Caroline was right in one respect - you don't take responsibility for your actions and your friends the way you expect them to. You've got to be fair about that. AND, if you really stopped talking to Danny over the whole slur incident, why was he in so many episodes after that happened? That doesn't make sense to me. Not a whole lot that you do makes sense to me, now that I think about it. But I hope you've turned the corner now. I really do.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

RHONJ - Season 2, Reunion part 1

Holy smokes! Did you see last night? Did ya? Huh? Did ya? Did everyone stay awake for the whole thing? My question was (and I'm sure everyone else was asking it, too) what is the deal with Theresa's nephew? I've read two theories on the subject: 1) the "nephew" is really a secret love child by Juicy Joe's mystery woman, Tara and 2) the nephew is really Theresa's brother's child. The second theory expands to explain that Theresa's brother married a woman of African-American descent. His parents don't approve. And the family has been estranged since the marriage. Theresa says she'll address the issue in her blog. We'll see.

So, what did you think of the cat fights? Are you ready for Kim G's appearance next week? What was the most shocking revelation?

Caroline - not bad. She lost her temper. The more "Jersey" aspect came out, but I figured it would. She's wants to clear the air a bit.

Theresa - W-O-W! I really didn't think my opinion of her could get much lower. I was wrong. You can't sit there and play the prim and proper sweet mom card and then jump up and swear worse than any sailor I've ever heard (and I've heard a few) and body slam the host. Then there's the whole bankruptcy thing. You are in denial. It's not avoiding the negative (although that's just a nice way to say you're in denial). It's refusing to accept reality. And it's about time you admitted that your gorgeous hubby was drunk as a skunk on the drive home when he totaled his truck. Nobody's believing the story that he was so worked up that he went and got drunk afterwards. You're just lucky you got a nice judge on the appeal who reduced the sentencing to the minimum.

Jackie - sit down, stay quiet, and stay out of it. The more you open your mouth, the worse you make yourself look. It's just that simple. Salvage what you can.

And then there's Danielle...

I simply can't bring myself to give her the benefit of the doubt anymore after twisting things so much and lying so much. Do they treat her unfairly, sure they do. But she also brings a lot of it on herself. Caroline was right when she said that if her girls were hurt by Caroline's remarks, how did they hear about it? And if they were going to hear about Caroline's remarks, they're sure to hear about the sex tapes. The thing is, these "woman" don't understand that these shows are going to last. They're going to have to explain this behavior for a long time to come. I'm sure Milania is going to give good old mom the thumbs up when she's a teenager and somebody brings out the DVD to show her. The bad thing is that Danielle's kids are old enough to have to live through this now.

I'm sorry. Maybe it's me. Maybe I'm too old-fashioned. But I now have a daughter, who is the center of my world (as these ladies claim their children are for them). I understand that sentiment. But now I live for her. I had my time. I don't live through her. I live for her. There's a difference. Let her go and do her thing. It's my job to present the opportunities. Not my job to be a stage parent. Too many are & it puts too much pressure on the kids. But I do think about how what I do, say, act, etc. will affect her. I do try to limit the "bad influences" while still exposing her to limited reality. Yes, I want to shelter her, but I don't want her to be afraid of the real world and I want her confident enough to kick butt when she's out in it. So no, I don't fight her fights for her. I leave that to her so she'll develop coping skills. I don't buy her everything she wants. She needs to learn to sacrifice and save. Is it me? Are my values so out of line with reality? Because I just can't see how these women (maybe with the exception of Caroline) can say they're such great parents with the way they behave and the way they are raising their kids. *sigh* Okay, I'm getting off my soap box now.

I am curious to see what's going to happen next week. I find it hard to believe that the reunion is only 2 episodes. Didn't NYC get 3? I would have thought with so much drama and tension between the girls that there would have been more. We'll see....

What did YOU think?

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

RHONJ Season 2 Finale

Grrrrr! This season's dose of duplicity has really ticked me off. Don't get me wrong - I'm a reality tv junkie who's addicted to the drama, but this has just gotten ridiculous.

And Danielle, the when you're speaking of more than one woman, the plural form of the word is "womEn". Pay attention, please! Shannon, now that you've pointed that out, it drives me up a wall every time I hear it!

First, let me start by mentioning a few little tidbits that I read online recently:
- Little known fact: Kim D and Kim G are sisters-in-law. That certainly explains a lot.
- A few short weeks after declaring bankruptcy, Teresa and Joe went on a $60,000 spending spree to begin replacing the furniture in their home that's been tagged for auction. Apparently, it's legit/legal, but even her lawyer said it looks bad.
- All their items are due up for auction on Oct. 3rd, including all the furniture and toys and stuff in each of the girls' rooms. That's just heartbreaking. Yes, the kids are spoiled rotten, but to have to auction off the baby's cradle? Really?
- Joe's successfully appealed his sentence for his DUI and will not serve any time. The first judge gave him the maximum penalties. The appellate judge reduce it all to the minimum.
- Danielle apparently hasn't been asked back for Season 3. Rumor has it she's shopping her own reality show about her life and issues.
- Teresa now has a gig as spokesperson for some tanning salon in North Jersey.
- The North Jersey Country Club in Wayne (site of the fashion show with the hair pulling) sent a letter to its members apologizing for the incident and telling the members that the RHONJ and Bravo are never allowed back.

Now, about last night.

Jackie - you have the nerve to say that you're a good mother? Are you kidding me? For real? What are you using for a benchmark? I just can't believe it. Granted, you don't beat or starve your kids, but your interpersonal relationship with Ashley needs some serious help.

Teresa - I just have to shake my head at how you continue to live in denial. Thankfully, I didn't have to suffer through the spending sprees (got it all out of your system in Italy, did ya?).

Albie/Chris/Lauren/Ashley - loving the kid interventions going on. Were you missing your camera time? How many times am I going to have to look at Albie being pictured as being so thoughtful? Apart from Ashley's temper tantrum at the dinner, I can't see how any of them really added much to last night's show.

Caroline and Danielle - I have to write about the two of you together for this one. Caroline, on the one hand, why did you feel compelled to contact Danielle? I have to think that was the producers putting you up to that, because I just can't see you volunteering for that. I just don't see it. The whole way you brought it up at dinner seemed contrived. Danielle, props to you for going. I think two bodyguards was a little overkill. As for the discussion itself. Caroline, if you had sat there and started in on the name calling (again), then yes, I would have gotten up and left, too. I can't blame Danielle for walking out. I really can't. How much abuse is she supposed to take before she's had enough? Danielle, you could have been more gracious and at least heard Caroline out. I really didn't expect Danielle to drop the charges (and we know she didn't). Caroline, I think you were hoping for a bit too much to expect that someone who went through what Danielle did when she was younger is going to suddenly turn around be so forgiving as an adult. I don't think Danielle has grown that much as a person over the years. She still seems to have a rather juvenile mindset, obsessing on others, feeling the need to assert herself. She's seeing this as a way to force the whole clan to admit that she (Danielle) was right and they owe her an apology. She's not going to pass that chance up. I did find it interesting that when they each started challenging each other on things - name me one time when I was mean to you, tell me one thing I did, what about your friends that are under indictment - they both skirted the issue. And Caroline, you can't have it both ways - you can't claim to be hurt when Danielle hurts the family, but then to take no responsibility for the pain they inflict on her. I think that's unfair. If you're going to lay claim to the damage done to your family but not to you directly, then I think you also have to lay claim to the damage done to Danielle by your family, even if it's not done by you directly. That knife really should cut both ways.

In the end it was unresolved. Nothing gained. More stress. Nobody won. Both came out damaged by the exchange. I thought the ending with Jillian and Christine hugging and shaking the hands of the body guards was ridiculous. What kind of message does that send to the girls about the neighborhood they live in and the people they have to face around town? I thought the big family dinner at the Brownstone (and yes, I got that right during the little trivia question - how could you miss that one?) was sad. Caroline acting as the matriarch of the family, telling Ashley that they do that for family. Gender reversal of the Godfather, anyone? Too staged, too fake, too ridiculous for me. I almost gagged when Jackie told Ashley's boyfriend that's considered family. Derek, run!

Still, I can't wait for the reunion. I'm addicted, what can I say?
But I wonder if the family will show up in force to buy all of Teresa's possessions so they can give them back to her. Especially their wedding rings.

What did you think?

Friday, July 23, 2010

Teresa & Joe - it just keeps getting better and better

http://www.tmz.com/2010/01/16/houswives-new-jersey-dwi-teresa-giudice-photo/

I had no idea Juicy Joe had gotten popped for DUI.

But wait! There's more about Teresa

http://www.realitytea.com/tag/joe-giudice/

What I love most about this blog is the edited out words that stay in the story calling her an idiot. Ooops!

She and Juicy Joe are being investigated for lying about their assets. The contents of her home are reportedly going to be sold to cover their debts. Is she in denial about the whole thing? If she repeats her own opinion enough, does that make it true? Will she lose that fabulous pool table and those comfy leather chairs around it?

And what about Danielle's law suits? She's being sued by two guys on two coasts - who apparently did that on purpose. And she's suing the other housewives.

And we wonder why the court system gets bogged down...

More dirt on the NJ Gals...

I have no idea if this is going to work on not, but here's the link:

http://www.astrochicks.com/2010/07/real-housewives-of-new-jersey-teresa-giudice-marriage-and-money-problems/

Apparently there's a big issue about Teresa laying claim to the apartment building, pizza parlor, etc. and what a great entrepreneur her hubby, Juicy Joe, is. What's more, there's claim on that blog that someone commented about an alleged mistress of Joe's. Interesting.

Catching up on the NJ Drama

Three episodes gone, but they’re all the same story… the fashion show at the country club and its aftermath.

Did Teresa start it? You bet. This time I’ve got to give props to Danielle for trying to keep her cool and get away.

Now, that said, I know my own temper and I’d be all ready to get into it if I were in that position. However, I’m not sure that, as a grown adult, as a mother, and as a woman I’d have gone literally running through an event shouting and screaming looking to fight someone.

Teresa went WAY overboard. And to try to paint herself as the sweet, loving woman who’s nice to everyone and that Danielle deserved it? I don’t think so, dear. I think you were being rotten and pushing Danielle’s buttons. Did she deserve it? Maybe. But you could have just let her walk by and not said a word, which would have been the prudent course.

But you had to push it and things escalated and the whole night erupted.

Which leads me to my main issue with the whole situation…

Ashley.

The girl deserves way more than what she got. In reading blurbs about how Danielle is filing suit against the housewives and all the ensuing drama, it came out that Ashley did go to court and got assessed a fine. How much? I forget the exact amount, but it was under $200. Yes, it was her first offense. But it was mean, intentional, spiteful, malicious, and rotten. And she was completely – utterly – unrepentant.

I think that’s what bothers me the most. She had no qualms about physically assaulting someone. I find it really troubling that she was so quick to laugh it off. I have to admit that I really wanted her to face charges and jail time for that little escapade of hers. I don’t care that she thought her mother got hit. There’s a right way and a wrong way to deal with the situation.

And I’m sorry Jacqueline, she had to learn that behavior from somewhere, and I lay a lot of it at your feet. I’ve watched how the two of you have butted heads this season. I’ve watched how you handle conflict with your daughter and how you’ve literally man-handled her and thrown her out of your house. So the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, my dear. Then to suddenly expect her to realize the enormity of what she’s done, feel repentant for it, and understand the consequences of her actions? I find that laughable. From what we’ve seen, she’s never been held accountable before. She’s gotten money, cars, whatever she wants. She’s moved out, but had you still supporting her, when she didn’t want to live by your rules – the most onerous of which was a curfew. She doesn’t work. She’s not in school. How on earth should she know how to be responsible for her own actions? How can you expect her to behave like an adult when she’s never grown up?

Grrrrrr.

I have to say that I was pretty disgusted by the whole situation. Maybe that’s why it’s taken me so long to write about it. No one behaved well. Danielle couldn’t let it go and decided to show her daughters how to prepare for revenge by going to get fighting lessons? Yeah, that’s a great way to teach your daughters how to handle conflict. Kim G and Kim the-one-who-runs-the-salon-who’s-last-initial-escapes-me just make me sick. They playing both sides. They mean and nasty. They can’t be trusted. If I had people like that in my life (and I probably do, I just don’t realize it because the venom hasn’t been directed toward me), I’d show them the door PDQ.

I mean, really! What’s to say you can’t be in the same room with people whom you’re not particularly fond of and still stay civil? It happens all the time. Stay on the other side of the room. Don’t talk to them. Ignore them. Rise above it. Don’t sit there and plot and plan on national television about how you’re going to seek revenge and prepare yourself for a physical altercation. That’s juvenile and just plain stupid.

Tiny yay to Jackie for calling Kim G to the carpet for playing both sides of the fence. But, really – Kim G has got to go. First of all, her dress at the fashion show was an embarrassment. I can’t imagine ever having the audacity to try to wear anything that short – and it certainly should not be seen on someone her age. The woman is old enough to be a grandmother and she’s acting and dressing like that? Really? Has the woman no shame? Well, obviously not. And when she goes to court like she said she would to stand by Ashley, well, so much for any concept of loyalty. What was it Bethenny called LuAnn? A snake? Certainly seems to apply here. I wonder if it’s just a matter of trying to get herself on camera? It’s looking more and more like they’re trying to make her Dina’s replacement. All I can say is that I hope that’s not the case; but that all the other women begin to distance themselves from her like Carolyn has.

Deep breath
Moving on…

In other storylines, I was glad to see that Albie got his letter to apply to other law schools. I hope that he’ll take the needed precautions to tell the schools that he has a learning disability so he can get help from day one and not wait until he’s on academic probation.

I still have trouble swallowing all the stuff I see Teresa and Joe doing. The pizza parlor? Really? Is it still in business? Because so many of Joe’s other ventures have been given back to the banks. Danielle wasn’t too far off the mark by calling so many of your properties in foreclosure, Teresa. And as the wife of a black belt, I can tell you that it’s great the girls are learning how to defend themselves, but they’re really just playing at that age – especially when they’re all together like that. Still, it was a cute photo op of them all at tae kwon do. I hope they learn the discipline that goes along with it. Not always easy when Dad’s the one teaching you [which is why Beth (for now) trains with another black belt we know].

I was disappointed to see the promos for the next show in the series – the DC Housewives. I’m not sure I’ll be able to bring myself to watch it. Just the thought of seeing that one couple erroneously attend the White House dinner sort of makes me queasy. I didn’t like them when it happened. I can’t imagine wanting to encourage them by watching them on the show.

And I heard that Fraiser’s (Kelsey Grammer) soon-to-be-ex-wife is going to be on an LA Housewives show that’s supposedly in the works. Not too sure about that one, either.

I still have yet to see an episode of Bethenny’s getting married. I wonder if Jill’s going to be all upset to see Brin’s delivery on television since she wasn’t there? It’s okay, I read the other day that Jill’s hosting Florida’s governor at her home in the Hamptons, so I’m sure she’s distracted.

Looking forward to Project Runway starting. Top Chef is eh most weeks this season. Hell’s Kitchen is getting annoying. Survivor is switching nights in the fall to Wednesdays & I’m not sure why, but it’s going to present a problem in our house.

Anybody watching Big Brother? I haven’t seen an episode yet. Saw the Bachelorette episode where the guy flew out to Tahiti to tell the Bachelorette chick that he was still in love with his ex. That was pretty good.

Okay, I’m rambling now. Enough’s enough. What are your thoughts on the latest drama?